31 August 2007

4 Years Plan Series - Part 15 : Self Portration


Wow, every hours..every minutes...every seconds...every miliseconds..every microseconds...have just passed by us without us noticing them. Finally we came to another week of my new write-up. Though I am 7 days out from writing one, I am totally overwhelmed with the response I got from my readers. Picking up 2 Your Say series was my biggest achieving for the week. Sometimes, you never know how much you can write until the time you act on it. I guess those who feature in my Your Say series would be surprised that they could write a lengthy comments as well. Speaking out what is within are not easy, but putting them in words are more difficult. Salute to those who have the courage and passion to share their stories here. It is an honour to have you guys/gals putting your thoughts in my blog.

Some said that my write-up are a 'photocopy' from somewhere else. Frankly speaking, most of the topics which appeared in my blog are really common to everyone. Hence, it gave an impressiong to people that they are imitations. To tell the truth, I am putting common issue in my own point of view. At the same time, I am trying to share what I have gone through as part of thos common topics. Getting the inspiration to write is not easy. Putting them into words and share it to "READERS" are not YASASHI at all. Sometimes we see people do things and we feel like it is very simple. And we tend to ignore the complexity of it. But once we got our hand into them, we shall feel what it is like in other's people 'shoe'. I challenge those who said that writing a blog is simple. Share your thoughts here and see how well you could impress your reader. Without proper thoughts and the feelings, the write up will not turn out impressive. And of course, TOKIDOKI I am happy with what I wrote and TOKIDOKI I feel my write-up is not good enough. But I wanna keep the passion to write. In some way, i strongly believe my English will improve at the same time some people in this WORLD shall find my sharing is useful. Hence, I would thank those who could meet my 100 words condition to write their sharing. I am sure without those inspiration and words from your heart, you will be able to write that much. Ganbate desu ne!!!

Alright, let's come back to my topic. What is self portration? This topic came to my mind when I was walking home from work the other day. I saw nice people along the way, pleasant one, rude one, self-fish one and crazy one as well. I am glad the salesgirl smiled to me even when I did not buy anything in the shop. I am surprised the customer service lady who assisted me with all my queries for almost 30 minutes. I am annoyed with those bikers who rule the road during the Independence Day and never thought of the safety of car drivers and themselves. All these are self-protration. What kind of value you want to protray to others? I am not talking about hypocrite here, so please omit that out when if you wish to continue reading. Of course, hypocrisy does exist - you go and settle them.

People around us have great values in them but they fear to portray them. This might be due to shyness or fear or may be the environment or society. Let us take charity for an example. Have you ever see those people who came to your table during lunch to ask for charity. I never 'bow' to this group of people. I am not portraying to be a mean person but I am just do not believe this type of collection. Instead, I go for bigger organisation. Why? Because they will do the rest for us. Just make your payment to them and they shall channel to those who in needs. The amount of contribution is solely dependent on individual capabilities. And those who do not do charity, does not mean they are not kind. Sometimes, I feel very bad since what i could do is only giving out money to charity. I am impressed by those who put their effort(physically) into helping others too. The main idea here is how you want to portray yourself is all dependence on your own thoughts. Bring out the best in oneself is very important.

Another thing is those popular stalls we had in our country. Because they are famous, people throng to those area to try out the food. If the food is nice, it is worth giving a try. What i am furious the most is the attitude of the owner. Some are really portraying a d***l. That what makes their food sucks. They lost the courtesy when they initially started those business. Guess money and reputation really change a person. I understand that when someone reach a certain level, their expectation is higher. Well, that still could be tolerated. Unfortunately, some just do not know how to be modest. Today, I went to one of a well-known seafood noodle stall for lunch in Alor. Good service and nice food. I admired these people the most. One staff even spoke Japanese to the Nihon-jin tourist. I am impressed and hope our country will be well known for their courtesy rather then the technologies. Self-portration is utmost important when it comes to recognisation. Don't you think so?

You can always smile to your own genders and it does not necessary to be the opposite sex. Be nice to people around you. As people said, what comes around and it goes around. Have you ever ask what others think about you? If not, try it out. You may find wonders from their words or even find negatives remark too. Knowing your weaknesses is not a bad idea after all. At least, you will take prevention or minimise it instaed. Though it is not easy to eliminate it but at least it gives you a second thought when you repeat it again. Did anyone tell you that you are warm-hearted? This kind of compliments can really boost your confidence. So think again how you want to portray yourself. Cultivate it and see the results. Let others take you as their IDOL. Be a good example to people around you. Not forgetting too, treasure those great values you have and share with others. Try not to change others but showcase your quality and eventually people will see it.

^Yasashi (Japanese) = Easy
^Tokidoki(Japanese) = Sometimes
^Nihon-jin(Japanese) = Japanese

Quote of the Day :

"Knowing oneself is the most difficult task in life so why are we judging others?"


30 August 2007

Your Say Series : Part 3 - pennylane Wanted to Say...

I am excited once again to receive exceptional feedback from a reader. Welcome pennylane for the contribution. Glad that I got feedback from all my write-up. Your say is interesting and it shall be my 2nd PICK of the MONTH. Ganbate!!!!! Now and then, I will be picking some comments and sharings from my fellow readers to drop it in this column of my blog. This is a tribute to them for taking the courage to let out what they feel and a token of appreciation for their contribution. So better get your typing skill ready and start to share with us your thoughts. Kindly EMAIL(if you do not know my email, pls ask) me or leave me your sharing/comments (provided at least 100 words and above) in this blog and I shall pick and publish it in my blog for others to read. Do provide a nickname too. Here is one of it, do enjoy..... ************************************************************************************

pennylane says

hi Patrick....after reading this part of ur blog....it touch my heart and reminded me of an incident which happen many many years ago....one incident which make me realize the importance of family and frens and things around us...

ok, come back to the incident....it's my best fren's mother's funeral....i still remember clearly the nite when i attended the funeral ceremony...everyone was sad with red and puffy eyes due to crying....then my best fren came out and greeted us....she was calm until we started asking her abt the detail of her mum passing....then tears start falling down....the moment i saw her tears i can't hold myself any longer...i started to cry too....i dunno why i cried along but somehow i can feel the way she felt at the moment....i was thinking of my mum that moment...i was thinking what if it happens to my mum....i can't loose my mum...i still need her tho i was 20 years old that time....that's the moment i know the importance of my mum to me...u know why i said that??

when u are young, frens tend to be more important in your life...u seems to neglect you family but u didn't realise until then....all you care is going out and have funs with frens ya!?? so from that day onwards, i start to appreciate what my mum do for me even when she's nagging cos i know it's all out of love...that incident made my bondage with my mum closer now....i even bring her out shopping or movie nowadays which my frens are shock to hear that...cos most of them just don't go out with their folks nowadays....all i wanna do is to CHERISH the moment with my mum every second i spend with her....that's the least i can do...i hope i won't REGRET when the day for her be with God....well, i guess incident happens is a process of us learning and realisation of things and experience in life....i guess all of us have their own INCIDENT of their life...it's what i call the TURNING POINT.....

hope my incident didn't bored u...till now....will be looking forward to ur new part of blog...

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In conclusion, cherish people around us. And it needs time and patience. And of course lots of hard work with passion....

28 August 2007

Your Say Series : Part 2 - Merz CLK Wanted to Say...

This time there is another passionate reader who commented on my blog. Welcome Merz CLK for the contribution. Glad that I got feedback from all my write-up. Your say is interesting and it shall be my PICK of the MONTH. Ganbate!!!!! Now and then, I will be picking some comments and sharings from my fellow readers to drop it in this column of my blog. This is a tribute to them for taking the courage to let out what they feel and a token of appreciation for their contribution. So better get your typing skill ready and start to share with us your thoughts. Kindly EMAIL(if you do not know my email, pls ask) me or leave me your sharing/comments (provided at least 100 words and above) in this blog and I shall pick and publish it in my blog for others to read. Do provide a nickname too. Here is one of it, do enjoy..... ************************************************************************************

Merz CLK said...

Hi, I'm here because I wanna let you know that eventhough I seems to be busy all the time, yet I still able to catch up till your latest episod oh.. hehe..Your thoughts in every episods reminds me on lots of memories..Makes me feel like wanna setup my own blog di..:pWell, I've some add-in on your Part-10 series...Love also means passion. What is passion? It's the STRONG FEELINGS in our heart towards a person. But how long will this "STRONG FEELINGS" last? For example, you love to eat...(anything you've tasted), you love to go...(anyplace in this world) or you love...(anyone in your mind) AND YOU REALLY LOVED...SO MUCH!!! But...as I said "HOW LONG" or "TILL WHEN"?

If you:
- eat things that you love everyday or everyweek, will you still LOVE eating it after a period of time?
- go/visit to places that you love so often, will you still LOVE to go/visit that place after a period of time?and finally...Guess what would I say here?
- be with the one you LOVE everyday, will you still LOVE him/her? Of course, I'll still love him/her la! So, that's not what I wanna say ok. But...
- If the person you love repeatly doing things tat you dun like everyday, never try "DO A LITTLE CHANGE" at all...Imagine that...how to make someone to continue loving you for another 5 or 10 years...?

You might not knowing the true reason why you love a person. Maybe because you admire his/her beauty, his/her talent, his/her style and etc... which relates to Part-14 series..AdmirationSo, what shall we do in order to have a meaningful long lasting love relation (at least for 30 years or more)? I learned from my own marriage life...so it's one of the secret tips oo.. ;) Haa...this relates to Part-5 series,

Never thought of just a little change
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then it turns out to be extremely great beginning
***就能画龙点睛***

The secret tips is "A LITTLE CHANGE ON YOURSELF"...believe it or not?
As I said earlier on, u need to make a person love you for at least 30 years or more...So, for girls.."A LITTLE CHANGE":

- do a little of make-up when you're being invited/ask to go out for dinner or shopping or movie (eventhough you don't like to make-up)
- dress-up yourself a bit by wearing a bit shorter or tighten skirt (eventhough you don't like to wear short skirt)
- change ur hairstyle (perm or straightened or cut)I'm not asking you to force yourself to CHANGE, but every girls like to be pretty. It's just that you'll feel LAZY to dress yourself after married or after being with him for so many years, right?And for guys.."A LITTLE CHANGE":- buy a small little present or a piece of flower that she like or...???
- call her just to say "I LOVE YOU" or "I MISS YOU" (don't do this if you doesn't mean it)
- bring her out for a special or romantic dinner (don't give reason by saying "NO MONEY" cause some place are nice but not expensive)
- also.. dress-up yourself a bit (not always T-shirt with jeans eventhough it's a branded LEVI's that cost RM???++)

Warning to all guys out there "DON'T ALWAYS THINK THAT WE'RE ALREADY TOGETHER FOR SO MANY YEARS SO NO NEED TO...bla bla bla"

LOVE is 2-WAY communication, so please don't just wait or expect him/her to do something for you. You can either take the first step first or give him some hints or tell him what you want from him (don't be too demanding...A LITTLE IS ENOUGH)Well, by doing "A LITTLE CHANGE" both of you will have feelings like you're back to the SPRING aka "suzushi" period lo...sweet right?

Besides that, both have to learn to forgive each other (don't say you forgive di, then bring back the grandmother story again and again in every arguments).Some people said try to avoid arguments, but I don't agree because if you avoid means things is not solve, either he/she is keeping it inside the heart.We are human, it's hard to avoid because everyone have their own mood everyday...so, can argue a bit but make sure u learn to forgive when he/she ask for forgiveness.Don't pretend not to ask for forgiveness if you know it's your fault just because you wan to WIN ok, cause by doing that you're actually making the argument worst.GOT my tips? Wow...never thought I can write so long..

Enough 100 words or not a?I think it's enough..cause it's not my blog kakaka... Just to share something and hope to give you inspiration.

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In conclusion, I would like to highlight that

Guys >> pls do something even when you are MARRIED!! Be loving, and THINK for your life-long partnet at HOME.

Gals >> pls do not demand too much. You are not forever 18 or 25!! Be compassionate and DO NOT think too much.